Are you tired of missing out because you're ashamed of your body?

Do you avoid looking at yourself in the mirror every morning because you know you’re going to hate what you see? Maybe someone makes an off-handed fat “joke” at work, and you shrink in on yourself, feeling humiliated. And whenever you go out to dinner with friends you just feel distracted and embarrassed because you can feel the people next to you staring.

Does this sound familiar?

I know it feels lonely… but you’re not alone. Every woman and femme of size I’ve met feels the pressure of our fat-hating society. And those constant feelings of shame, not to mention the “well-meaning” comments, make you feel like you shouldn’t, or even can’t, do so many things.

  • You can’t wear a bikini, no one wants to see that.
  • You can’t run, you’ll hurt your knees.
  • You can’t have a cupcake, you didn’t work out today.
  • Maybe if you lost a little weight you could get a date.
  • You can’t wear this, buy that, go there… until you lose weight.

Diet culture is like that bitchy “friend” who questions everything you do, or even want to do.

What if instead...

You’re excited to get dressed in the morning because you know you look great no matter what. Striking a pose in front of your mirror you feel feminine, sexy, and ready to take on the world.

You finally sign up for that pole dancing class you’ve always wanted to try. Even if you’re the biggest person in the class, you’re determined to have fun.

You order dessert first while out to lunch with your friends, without worrying about what anyone might think. That cupcake sounds ah-mazing right now!

You decide to go after that promotion even though you’re scared. You’ve worked hard and know you deserve it.

That night, as you’re getting undressed for bed, you enjoy your partner’s appreciative glances. And as you drift off to sleep a while later, you feel light, relaxed, and happy to be you.

stop waiting now & transform your life in 90 days

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So are you ready to build confidence
and create a life you love...
without weight loss?

I want to be your body confidence bestie!

I’m the kind of best friend who brings you cupcakes and bourbon after a breakup, trash-talks your ex to make you feel better, then helps you pick up the pieces and move on with your life. 

And that’s exactly what you get when you sign up for the


… except we’re breaking up with your bad body image.

And you have to bring your own cupcakes and bourbon. Sorry.

“Aby is an incredible coach who uses her own experiences, natural empathy, and beautiful coaching skills to create a warm and inviting space for people to process how they want to move ahead. In a world of pressure and noise and expectations, working with Aby is like a breath of fresh air. It opens up possibilities and potential to move ahead in ways you may not have considered before.

Brittany Barden

Here's How It Works...

STEP 1: Dare to Dream
Post-breakup you is pretty awesome, and I can’t wait for you to meet her! That’s why we’ll start by exploring what life looks like when you stop waiting for weight loss. What have you dreamed of doing, but never thought you could? Because it’s time to make that dream a reality. You’ll define what a happy future looks like to you, and choose one goal off your skinny list to work toward over the next 90 days.
STEP 2: Send Body Shame Packing
Before you can build your dream life you have to clear away the rubble. You’ll explore what’s really holding you back from living the life you dream of, confront your bad-body gremlins, and come up with ways to deal with external oppression and discrimination. The whole point here is to teach your brain that you have nothing to be ashamed of; that you’re already worthy of everything you want (because you are!).
STEP 3: Design Your Body Confidence System
You can’t control the way society treats you. But you can create habits and systems that help build and refresh your confidence, so that you’re prepared to stand up against the bullshit. You’ll experiment with systems of self care, social support, and more, to come up with a custom body confidence support plan that works for you.
STEP 4: Build Resilience
As you start to practice elements of your body confidence system, we’ll celebrate every victor with a little happy dance (and cupcakes!). We’ll also confront the inevitable setbacks with compassion and understanding (and cupcakes). You’ll learn how to get back on track – without beating yourself up about it – and explore how to make change sustainable as you build resilience and confidence.
STEP 5: Commencement
This might be the last session of your package, but it’s far from the end of your journey! We’ll review all the amazing progress you’ve made so far, and you’ll design your next steps to make sure you keep moving forward. And you’ll be well on your way toward a life of confidence and the freedom to do anything you set your mind to.

“Since working with Aby I have been more mindful of how I view myself and how I view my situation. She always tries to make me see the opposite of a situation. When I don’t see the positive of a situation she has me look at it from a different point of view.

My fear of what others think is diminishing. I am not afraid to stick by a decision I have made.

The most helpful thing about working with a coach is finally saying I am willing to change. I am being held accountable week after week to make the changes we have talked about. It has been beyond helpful!”

Ashley Ames

Here's What You Get in the


  • 6 sixty-minute private coaching sessions by phone, spread over 3 months.
  • Worksheets, exercises, and activities to support your body confidence journey.
  • Unlimited email support (I'll always respond within 24 hours).
  • BONUS: If you purchased a Fat Femme Confidence Boost within the last two weeks, you can apply what you paid to your BFF Package price!

So are you ready to start enjoying life in the body you have?