Do you avoid looking at yourself in the mirror every morning because you know you’re going to hate what you see? Maybe someone makes an off-handed fat “joke” at work, and you shrink in on yourself, feeling humiliated. And whenever you go out to dinner with friends you just feel distracted and embarrassed because you can feel the people next to you staring.
Does this sound familiar?
I know it feels lonely… but you’re not alone. Every woman and femme of size I’ve met feels the pressure of our fat-hating society. And those constant feelings of shame, not to mention the “well-meaning” comments, make you feel like you shouldn’t, or even can’t, do so many things.
Diet culture is like that bitchy “friend” who questions everything you do, or even want to do.
You’re excited to get dressed in the morning because you know you look great no matter what. Striking a pose in front of your mirror you feel feminine, sexy, and ready to take on the world.
You finally sign up for that pole dancing class you’ve always wanted to try. Even if you’re the biggest person in the class, you’re determined to have fun.
You order dessert first while out to lunch with your friends, without worrying about what anyone might think. That cupcake sounds ah-mazing right now!
You decide to go after that promotion even though you’re scared. You’ve worked hard and know you deserve it.
That night, as you’re getting undressed for bed, you enjoy your partner’s appreciative glances. And as you drift off to sleep a while later, you feel light, relaxed, and happy to be you.
I want to be your body confidence bestie!
I’m the kind of best friend who brings you cupcakes and bourbon after a breakup, trash-talks your ex to make you feel better, then helps you pick up the pieces and move on with your life.
And that’s exactly what you get when you sign up for the
… except we’re breaking up with your bad body image.
And you have to bring your own cupcakes and bourbon. Sorry.
“Aby is an incredible coach who uses her own experiences, natural empathy, and beautiful coaching skills to create a warm and inviting space for people to process how they want to move ahead. In a world of pressure and noise and expectations, working with Aby is like a breath of fresh air. It opens up possibilities and potential to move ahead in ways you may not have considered before.”
“Since working with Aby I have been more mindful of how I view myself and how I view my situation. She always tries to make me see the opposite of a situation. When I don’t see the positive of a situation she has me look at it from a different point of view.
My fear of what others think is diminishing. I am not afraid to stick by a decision I have made.
The most helpful thing about working with a coach is finally saying I am willing to change. I am being held accountable week after week to make the changes we have talked about. It has been beyond helpful!”
So are you ready to start enjoying life in the body you have?