what happened when I STOPPED WAITING

All About Aby, The Fat Femme Wellness Coach

Hi, I’m Aby (she/her aroace), your resident fat-positive body confidence & wellness coach!

I help women and femmes of size build body confidence, so that they can ditch shame, feel amazing, and stop waiting to make their dreams a reality.

I’m also a sociologist, writer, the wife of a firefighting paramedic, and mom to one rough-and-tumble budding feminist. I regularly take client calls in my pajamas, and shamelessly enjoy cupcakes, hoarding (and reading) books, and 90’s sci-fi TV.

Body/fat acceptance changed my life.

I’m a 30-something queer fat woman who started her first diet when she was just 12 years old. Then, in 2014, after years of restrictive diets, miserable exercise plans, and confidence-crushing weight-cycling, I discovered Health at Every Size, intuitive eating, and body/fat acceptance. It’s not an understatement to say these discoveries changed my life.
There were so many things I kept waiting to do because I thought 
I needed to be smaller first, and suddenly… I was done waiting.
In 2016 I got pregnant, and became even more obsessed with changing the way I thought and felt about my body. I knew there was no way in hell I wanted to pass on the harmful body messages and disordered eating patterns that were such a huge part of my life. I wanted to do better for my kid and for myself.


Breaking up with diet culture changed my life, and now I want to help you change yours.

“Aby is an incredible coach who uses her own experiences, natural empathy, and beautiful coaching skills to create a warm and inviting space for people to process how they want to move ahead. In a world of pressure and noise and expectations, working with Aby is like a breath of fresh air. It opens up possibilities and potential to move ahead in ways you may not have considered before.

Brittany Barden